You know you’re stuck, but how can you reach the bottom, without hitting bottom? Can you recognize your desperation and make a decision soon enough to escape collateral damage?
When helping couples recover from affairs and addictions, it’s important to recognize the voice of desperation and then contrast it to the possibilities that are found in hope.
The simple and undeniable power of hope is understated. There is enough power in hope to lift anyone out of the deepest pit of despair. People everywhere are craving it. For some, their very lives depend on it. When it feels like an impossible situation, it is the first step toward choosing life. It is available and it is yours for the choosing.
If hope is so powerful, then how does one get desperate enough to have an affair?
In my case, it was an affair. But the attraction to any addiction shares the same language. I can look back and identify the voice of desperation enticing me to follow its dangerous demise.